Love is in the air, and it has arrived at A Thrifty Mom Site! Are you ready for 7 days of lovin’? Alison, our Falling in Love with your Family contributor, is sharing 7 days of romance, skill-building, and fun to get you ready for Valentine’s Day and give your marriage a boost. You can work on the challenges together, or you can try it out without letting your spouse know it’s anything but a burst of love from you. If you accept the 7-day challenge and leave a comment about how it went on February 15, you’ll be entered into a drawing for a $25 movie card.
Day 7: Today’s about the Giving
If you’ve been doing the 7-day challenge, hopefully your marriage has a bit more sparkle to it. I hope you’ve been smooching, leaving love notes, planning for a great Valentines Day, focusing on the good in each other, calling just because, and remembering all the love you’ve shared together!
Now, it’s Valentines Day. And you may be asking, “What about me?!?!” It is natural when we try to improve our relationship to expect the same in return. We may even begin keeping a mental tally chart and run a dialogue in our heads that may sound something like this: “I made an effort to thank him for putting the kids to bed and I did the dishes by myself and I left a love note on the mirror and I tried so hard not be a nag. He owes me big today.” The problem is, when both partners focus on themselves and try to grab their fair share of the pie, they usually walk away as hungry as before.
There’s a place for long, heartfelt, conversations about division of labor. There are appropriate times to express our own needs and help our spouse love us better. But most of the time, we love because our spouse needs loving, we are kind because kindness is good for our souls, and we continue building our marriage because it is worth it. Luckily, that circle of service will usually come right back to you. But for today, give a gift and watch them smile without looking for your package. Give a sincere compliment without waiting for one in return. And love with all your heart, without keeping score.
Happy Valentines Day!